Scripture dating advice
Sin not only brought about a break with God, but it also ruptured the original communion between man and woman.
Adam and Eve blamed each another for what had happened and were now embarrassed by their nakedness (Genesis 3:7-13).
The Old Testament shows how sin affected the goodness of marriage. Moses allowed divorce because of the people’s “hardness of heart” (see Deuteronomy 24:1 and Matthew 19:8).
Woman, then, is man’s equal in dignity and the one closest to his heart.
Because man and woman were created for one another, “a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one flesh” (Genesis 2: 24).
BUT I learned that list of ‘gotta-haves’ of mine was misguided.
New Testament Christians are new creations in Christ, healed of sin and its effects. Jesus tells us that in the Kingdom of God the permanent union of husband and wife that God originally intended can once more be realized (see Matthew 19:6-11).By the grace of the Holy Spirit, husbands and wives can now truly love and honor one another. Paul tells us that marriage bears witness to the indissoluble love of Christ for his Church.
But you’ve got to believe me; all the other descriptions in the paragraph above were true. That list of ‘gotta-haves’ that my future wife HAD to ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY have? That list was driven by worldly values, not godly values. And we share several common fundamental passions that have cemented our relationship including a passion for our faith and music. It was to be an innocent date; with innocent conversation. It was an innocent request; with innocent expectations. I have fallen in love with ‘Louise’, and have proposed to her, the woman of my dreams! I expected that if all went well, I’d probably ask her for a 2nd, and perhaps a 3rd date; but most likely, that would be the extent of our interest. Just like others that I’ve dated, I expected that she’d be cute – and that I’d be respectful; that she’d be interesting – and that I’d be conversational; that she’d exhibit refinement – and that I’d exhibit chivalry. Scripture teaches that marriage is not a mere human institution, but something God established from the foundation of world.