Aspie affection dating
People involved in relationships with a mindblind partner report feeling invalidated, unsupported, unheard, unknown and uncared for.
I don’t usually notice small changes in a situation or a person’s appearance. I know how to tell if someone listening to me is getting bored.
When I talk on the phone, I’m not sure when it’s my turn to speak.
o not minimize the extent of my having been changed from a vivacious, sensual, happy, loving, athletic, healthy, wealthy, bright, articulate, fairly socially adept human to being melded and molded to accommodate an autistic adult into exactly the opposite of who I am for the sake of a one-sided relationship.” Initially, a woman may admire the man’s intelligence, knowledge, good manners, old-fashioned sensibilities, unconventional charm, child-like qualities, and his practical, rational way of looking at the world.
He may have a good job, often as an engineer or in an IT-related field, such as computer programming.
Another point of interest is that around 80% of those actually diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder got an AQ score of 32 or higher out of the maximum 50.
They suffer from severe, ongoing emotional deprivation that results in depression, loneliness, anger, low self-esteem, emotional breakdown, PTSD and physical illness.
It does not upset me if my daily routine is disturbed. I frequently find that I don’t know how to keep a conversation going. I find it easy to “read between the lines” when someone is talking to me. I usually concentrate more on the whole picture, rather than on the small details. People with Asperger’s syndrome do not possess “Theory of Mind” abilities, which means they aren’t able to recognize and understand the thoughts, beliefs, desires and intentions of other people in order to make sense of their behavior.The result is a person who is “mindblind,” which means blindness to another person’s needs, feelings and desires.There are many classes, coaching programs and websites that offer training to help them act like a neurotypical (NT, or “normal”) man.Many study the words and behavior of NT people around them, and copy it.This adversely affects the important quality of empathy, which is vital to a successful and fulfilling relationship.