I am dating a shy girl
As a modern culture, we value people with traits associated with extroverts–people who are outgoing, open, and naturally social.
Rather than floating around with a crowd, I liked to read and spend time in my room.
She knew early on what it has taken me quite a while to accept: I am, without a doubt, an introvert.
When I was growing up, my mom quickly realized that I wasn’t going to follow in my outgoing sister’s footsteps.
Instead, she described me as an old soul, a kid that liked to be alone, and spoke up only when there was something important to say.
They listen to people’s needs and wants, and take the time to support them.
But by placing these characteristics in the forefront of what’s important to us as a society, we put a great deal of pressure on introverts to adopt those traits.We assume that all introverts are shy and lack charisma, because they don’t seek out the spotlight like extroverts.
While their energy is admirable, it can also be ineffective. They know how to harness their energy and concentrate on producing great results–whether in personal or professional relationships. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with an introvert, you know they are listening, because they’re not only talking less, but are taking in your concerns and coming up with something meaningful to say.Yet introverts can become open and social in certain situations.If introverts feel comfortable, or feel the need to speak up, there is no reason why we wouldn’t.We read situations carefully, and think before we speak.We can observe better than most, and focus on what’s important.It’s not that I to be surrounded by only a few people I’ve formed a real connection with. Just think of the slew of leaders, business giants, famous TV personalities, and humanitarians who are outgoing and confident, and excel in the spotlight.